How to Get Motivation Back
There are two feelings that every one of us can relate to – the euphoric feeling of success and the discouraging feeling of failure. We continuously go through these motions of experiencing limitless possibilities that propel us with more energy, more drive, and more motivation. Then we have those moments where we dip deeply in our doubts that every ounce of effort to swim back up seemingly weighs us down even more.
The truth is, there is a fire in all of us and there always has been. Becoming too fixated on our failures can make it hard to find that fire or even believe that a fire exists – but it does.
In order to find that fire again, you must first re-shift that focus.
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So here’s how to get motivation back on track when you’re feeling like a failure:
Change your focus
Notice how I mentioned my credit card debt, unclear vision, and a long list of rejected jobs, there? That’s all I was focusing on.
Now it’s time to check in and ask yourself, what are you really focusing on?
- Is it a number of missed opportunities you wished you had taken?
- Is it a string of moments and events that didn’t bring you happiness?
- Is it a project that resulted in a way you didn’t expect after putting in much dedicated hours and hard work?
Sometimes, we get caught up in this cycle of how to’s rather than the do’s – which is more of a distraction than a motivation.
Other times, we don’t even notice how much focus we’re putting in one particular part of our journey or project without taking a few steps back to see the overall picture.
Most times, we focus on our failures and why we haven’t reached that goal versus looking at all the baby steps that matter – and they matter.
As the saying goes,“one step forward, two steps back.” Life’s unforeseen and even predicted circumstances will always put you two steps back. It isn’t to discourage you on your journey, but instead is giving you an opportunity to take a look at how far you have come and to admire how much more you have to go.
It’s about self-assessing and asking yourself what is working for you. It’s also about taking a breather.
See, what I did there? I just re-shifted the focus.
Listen to your inner needle
There’s an inner needle within all of us, which we may either not pay much attention to.
There’s much truth to the saying, “you need to take care of yourself before you can take care of others,” but here’s the irony – sometimes the motivation lies behind the person you are motivated by.
Whether it be your hard-working mom who worked two jobs to put food on the table for you while you were growing up, the restaurant busboy who saves his tips in order to put himself through flight school, or your boss who navigates through million dollar contracts with confidence and character, there is a particular reason why that specific person moves that needle within you – it’s an admired quality they carry.
Listen to that needle and find those qualities within yourself and believe they truly exist.
In order to do this, try putting yourself in the shoes of someone you admire.
For an example, the restaurant busboy putting himself through flight school. He’s working a part-time job while saving enough money to attend flight school because he wants to fly the huge aircrafts that he watches from his rooftop everyday. He doesn’t come from a well to do family and lives in a small town without the accessibility to flight schools and proper training programs.
What motivates him to work those two jobs? It’s the dream. What motivates the dream? It’s to build something for himself and to return home in uniform to make his mother proud. The motivation here is his mother, and this is what motivated my father to leave the small island of Guam in order to pursue his dream of becoming a pilot and fly the Boeing 747 aircraft around the world.
Sometimes it helps to look beyond who motivates you, but instead why.
Find your “why”
After my father’s death, I had found my “why” and that is to live with intention – the intention to live a colorful life for the both of us.
With every new day is a new canvas, a new 24 hours, a reset button.
Deciding on your “why” is the first step to regaining motivation, but acting on your why is what gets the ball rolling.
Tomorrow provides to be a new startover, and by acting on your why today, it will bring you something you did not have yesterday and that is confidence.
When you’re in a place when you’re unmotivated and stuck, confidence is gold. Confidence gets you out of bed and with that confidence you have the mindset to conquer.
Reach out to your mentor
Mentors play a huge role in your personal and professional growth. They are individuals – with no limits to the number of mentors one can have– who are there to give you advice and also support you during setbacks.
A mentor is a support system to help motivate you when you feel like a failure and believe in you more than you probably believe in yourself. You can count on them to ask the most powerful and hard-hitting questions with no room for you to run from yourself.
When you’re feeling stuck or failing in life, reach out to that person who’s willing to show you that mirror into your internal self and allow them to guide you back.
To help you find a suitable mentor, these things are what to look for in a good mentor.
Defy gravity
Everyone has come across a period in their lives when they lose that momentum. It happens.
Have you noticed how much energy it takes letting a ball fall to the ground compared to throwing it up in the air? There’s more resistance throwing something compared to letting it free fall – consider that your thoughts.
When certain events in our lives knock us off course, the doubts, negativity, and ideas of failure can drown us quicker and faster than it takes to turn those thoughts back around. These negative thoughts can easily turn into a habit of only pointing out everything you have done wrong versus pointing out everything you have done right.
This is a mirror to our efforts.
Losing motivation happens to everyone, and it’s no hidden secret that the ladder to success or the climb to our place of peace is as simple. By picking out the small things to be grateful, happy, and excited about, the swim back up to the surface gets easier.
Final Thoughts
There’s no perfect remedy or magical switch that can instantly bring those feelings of motivation back into our lives. For some people, it takes something traumatic to occur to reignite that fire; whereas for others, it takes reconnecting to the things and people who ground them.
Keep in mind that your defintion of failure can also be limited to your own beliefs and what you would consider it to be. As humans, it’s natural to be hard on ourselves, but self-compassion also means being a friend to ourselves.
Just remember:
- Taking two steps back isn’t considered a failure, it’s an observation.
- Reaching out to others isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s self-growth.
- Losing motivation doesn’t mean you’re off track, it’s a temporary standstill.
Life comes in waves and although it may feel like you’re sinking under, know that what goes down will eventually make its way back to the top.